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Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Just a WARNING this is a very long post!!!

Sorry I know I have stories that I was supposed to be finishing. So lets start updating shall we??

My fiance came back from vacation last week. We talked and decided that we are going to work on our relationship. He told me that he wants to be with me, marry me and have more kids. I let him know that it all sounds good right now, but there are things that we both have to work on. It's not just as easy as saying what you want, you have to work on the crap that we have problems on. I'm not saying that I don't have shit that I need to work on but god knows I have tried. So we had a great weekend together and I have hope that everything will work out. Wish me luck!!!

So the drama this weekend, Paige!! Remember when I told you that her husband was looking at that condo. K, so the thing is, is that it wasn't actually for me. He has wanted to buy a piece of investment property for years. He's got some extra money in the bank and started looking. It was just kind of ironic that I was also contemplating moving out and getting my own place. I agreed to rent it from him if he bought it. Not forever just awhile, just until I figure out what the fuck I wanna do with my life. He found out Saturday that he got it. So now I have a problem, if I move out I can't fix my relationship with Adam. If I stay I piss off my best friend. What the hell do I do???

I piss off my best friend. I talked to her Sat night and let her know that I was having doubts. She told me that she thinks that I am making a big mistake. I should move into the condo, but if I chose not to, I won't loose friends over it. Do what I feel is best for me, just decide soon.

So I call her husband on Sunday and ask him, how pissed at me would you be if I don't rent the place from you. He got mad, I apologized and let him know that I thought it was the best for me and my kids. He hung up.

So about an hour later she called, she says he's pissed, he'll get over in a couple days. He feels betrayed and feels like I screwed him over. She says were fine, she thinks that everything will calm down soon.

Four hours later she starts texting me. He's so upset. He feels like you betrayed him. I don't know what to do, I don't want to be in the middle of it. I need to make him happy but your my best friend(only friend). I feel stuck in the middle. I don't want to chose sides. blah blah blah....

I apologize a thousand times, tell her I didn't do it on purpose. I still wanna be friends, I thought I did what was best for me and my future. Now,I am not normally one to kiss someones ass. If your mad at me, then I'm sorry but you can either get over it or don't be my friend. I don't mean to sound like a bitch, but I really don't enjoy the drama. I didn't think it was that big of a deal.

So then all of a sudden she says,he asked me if I was mad at all and to be honest I feel disappointed, I feel like you chose Adam over our friendship and screwed us. Then went on to say that she didn't understand how I could do this to them. I made this decision and didn't even think of how it was going to effect them. I am the reason they bought the place and I betrayed them. As all of this is going on, I continually tell her I'm sorry. If she needs to be on his side and not be my friend anymore then I will understand.

You would think I killed one of their children. They did NOT buy this condo for me. I just agreed to move in and rent it from them for a while. It needs a lot of work and they promised it would all be fixed by the time I moved in. Now part of her argument was that now they have to go in and fix everything up before they can rent it out. So did they lie, they weren't going to fix it for me. News flash the place was a dump, I would have never moved in if it didn't get fixed first.

So next on the drama list. We have a concert to go to this Friday night. She decides it is not a good idea that she goes, she needs to make sure that her husband is happy and thinks that if she goes it will piss him off. I told her twice to make sure that's what she wants. She says yes, to find someone to buy her ticket.

So yesterday morning I call my friend Lynn, she says that she doesn't have the money to go but that she will let me know for sure this evening. I also text my friend Nessa but don't hear back from her until later in the afternoon. In the meantime Paige has text me and asked if I found anyone to buy her ticket, if not she still wants to go. WTF!!! I let her know that Lynn is going to call me later, I don't mention Nessa, I didn't think I had to. I ask her why she changed her mind, she had the audacity to tell me,"he says I can still be friends with you it's just that he will never trust you again" How nice is that to tell someone that is supposed to be your best friend?

Nessa texts me later and says that if Lynn doesn't go that she will. She also agrees that this whole condo thing is not my fault and is being blown entirely out of proportion. So Lynn calls she can't go, no money. I called Nessa, she says she will defiantly go. I text Paige and let her know that Nessa is going and I will have her money next week.

So she calls me and is rude as hell, is confused because I didn't mention anything about Nessa going, only Lynn. Tells me that she wants her money and hangs up on me. First of all who the fuck do you think you are. I have taken all your crap and shit talking and been pretty nice about it and for shit that I don't entirely think is my fault. You said you didn't want to go. I asked you more than once just to make sure. So now, why are you so mad. Because I didn't tell them nevermind, all of a sudden your not mad at me so you can go.

I called her back. I asked her why the hell she was so pissed. I also tell her that I didn't like the comment about, he says I can be friends with you. Hold up, cause didn't you just get mad at me because you say I chose my fiance over our friendship. Isn't that what you doing? She starts crying and telling me that she doesn't know what to do. She still wants to be my friend but she can't believe that I gave the ticket to Nessa since I didn't mention it earlier, blah blah blah. I tell her, I'm sorry, when you decide what you want then you call me and let me know. I will be here and I hang up. Seriously are we still in high school. I wasn't aware I was only allowed one other friend, that I had to tell you who I talked to and when. I'm so irritated.

This morning her husband calls me and leaves me a message. He says he is not mad, a little disappointed. Everything will be OK, he's going to fix up the condo and rent it out. Please don't feel bad about this, its all OK, blah blah.....

So if he is not mad then why is she? She only started getting mad when he asked her why she wasn't. Who was the one really talking all the shit? I really don't know what the hell to think. I know that I said I would rent the place but damn there isn't other people who need a place to live in town. I made a decision based on what I thought was best for me and my family. You have two months to find someone. I think that's plenty of time. I am also kinda pissed now that I have had time to think about all the crap she said to me.

What do you think? Should I let it go or say something to her? What would you do if it was you?

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4 comments: to “ Friends????

  • Anonymous
    July 31, 2007 at 1:57 PM  

    I say don't worry about it. Let her calm down and then just let her know that you did not like the way she spoke to you.

  • Anonymous
    August 1, 2007 at 10:21 AM  

    Man! She sounds so dramatic. I say let it go for now. There's not much more you can say to her. Let her simmer down.

    The whole condo thing is not your fault. You were thinking in the best interest of your family, which is more important than your friends.

  • Anonymous
    August 1, 2007 at 12:19 PM  

    I agree. If you try to talk to her right now, more things will be said that probably shouldn't be. Let her calm down and come talk to you. Give her space to realize what she is pushing away (you) and let her decide if she's willing to give up your friendship over something so trivial.
    Good luck!

  • Jaiden
    August 1, 2007 at 4:14 PM  

    Madison, she is very dramatic. I still question why I'm even friends with her. She is a good person, sometimes.

    BMR, thanks for the advice. I think I will do that.

 

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